From the category archives:

Love & Relationships

“A goal without an action plan is a daydream” –Nathaniel Branden–

May 10, 2011

I recently read this quote in a book by M.J. Ryan called “This Year I Will…” and I was drawn to it–perhaps because I am venturing into the coaching world and coaching focuses on quicker movement, less of the past and a lot planning for the future. It’s essentially less talk and more action. This [...]

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How Getting A Dog Improved My Life

April 22, 2011

As I sit here writing this morning’s blog my dog is lying across my feet sleeping. Just a minute ago he was standing between me and a stranger that had come to the door. He is by NO MEANS a security or protection dog but every now and then he pretends and I like it. [...]

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Learning how to be conscious without being judgmental

April 18, 2011

It’s certainly not a bad thing to have dreams and goals and in fact none of us go anywhere without a vision for the future. But for many of us those “dreams” turn quickly into judgments and leave us with an empty feeling inside– as if we aren’t good enough unless THE dream comes true. [...]

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Help, I’m Exhausted!

April 6, 2011

Ever catch yourself uttering those words? Perhaps you feel “less than” because you see others juggling their tasks with grace. No matter what they have on their metaphorical plates, it looks easy. I’m often guilty myself — that feeling of wanting to take on as much as I can — prove to some under-developed part [...]

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Fight Fair!

February 9, 2010

Fight Fair!
The first relationship that child ever sees is the one their parents have — for better and for worse, that’s it for a very, very long time (at least from a romantic liason point of view). What we teach them when we interact with our partners is how to interact — kids are more [...]

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Stop, Look and LISTEN

February 2, 2010

Stop,Look and LISTEN
Remember the instructions you were given when you were first learning to cross the street? Stop, Look & Listen. It’s amazing how certain phrases and sayings just have a way of staying with you and this one is definitely one that we are all familiar with. As a therapist I get the opportunity [...]

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“If YOU Change, I Will Be Happy”

August 24, 2009

“You Change and I will be happy”
At the heart of every conflict, disappointment and relational frustration is the idea that if the other person changes we will be happier. Think about your last disagreement with someone you cared about. Was there an intense need to have that other person see things your way and just [...]

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Is The Past Affecting Your Relationships?

August 15, 2009

I have been thinking a lot about relationships — and not only those we have with our intimate partners. I have been trying to determine a common denominator, the common denominator that stops relationships in their tracks, paralyzes them at times, puts us on the defense and make us unable to work through conflicts and [...]

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