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Love & Relationships

I Hurt You, You Hurt Me Back… And Harder.

August 4, 2009

I hurt you, you hurt me back… and harder.
Does this sound familiar — and painful? It can take months to clean up the mess and the aftermath of a dual of hurt and rage — Words generally do more damage than hands. The worst part of an emotional exchange gone wrong is the piggybacking of [...]

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Unlearning Your Default Behaviors

July 29, 2009

There is nothing more likely to sabotage an intimate relationship than your instinct(s) to fight, flight or fix. Which one do you do? In the midst of an argument, heated discussion or disagreement -
The “Fighter” – instantly retaliates with an angry voice, nasty words and an array of defenses and attacks.
The “Flighter” – puts [...]

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Learning to let go…

July 13, 2009

It started quite simply, I got into an argument with my significant other and then before I knew it, we were baring our teeth and hurling insults at each other. No, this didn’t actually happen to me or with my spouse but it is a familiar and painful scenario, between friends, partners, family members and [...]

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Love, Marriage and a Relationship – Finding Love Again

June 22, 2009

It happens. It may have taken you a month or two years but suddenly, you know it’s time to try again. Try again that is to find love–or if not love than someone kind, considerate and trustworthy.
It may seem impossible. You may have decided you were never going to love again after you were hurt [...]

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Book of The Week

June 1, 2009

What does a couple do when they think that they have “fallen out of love?” Our culture has a lot to say about falling in love but it teaches us very little about staying in love. Terry Real, a marriage and family counselor for over thirty years writes about the culture and the differences between [...]

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Love and Marriage

May 28, 2009

There so much stress in people’s lives these days that it is no wonder marriages are struggling more than ever. No time, less money, more complicated parenting issues, etc., etc., etc., I have to say that I absolutely LOVE working with couples. I enjoy the energy and the dynamics–there is often a lot of soul [...]

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Couples: Improve your communications

May 16, 2009

I call it the Pause and it is truly a relationship saver. Imagine the last argument you had with your partner. Think about the most angry, volatile moments in that argument. Now imagine if one or the other had paused … somewhere, at some point in the argument.
Perfecting the Pause will require a lot from you.

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Improving Your Relationship With Your Partner

May 14, 2009

Relationships aren’t easy and the relationship between intimate partners is undoubtedly the most difficult and challenging. We begin our relationships with the notion that the love we have for our partner will conquer all only to discover that it doesn’t and won’t ever.
We tend to focus on infidelity in a relationship as the most hurtful [...]

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